Relationships & Marriage

Marriage Therapist - Of Value?

2007-01-22T17:27:00.000-08:00

Someone just asked me whether there was any point in going to see a marriage therapist or if the marriage would just fall apart. Here's part of my response: Before visiting a counselor, it is wise to ask whether the person’s focus is facilitating marriage building or facilitating divorces. Many counselor’s are trained to respond to people’s pain and relieve it rather than to help couples learn new marriage knowledge and skills. There is an excellent new resource that can assist couples (in the US) in choosing a counselor: http://www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com/. When you choose a counselor with a record of success, your marriage can be helped. Just remember to get help early when experiencing problems...don't wait until you are at the point of separation. Check out www.divorcebusting.com if you need help too. And if you need coaching, try our website (www.marriagetransformation.com) or www.prepare-enrich.com or www.smartmarriages.com. There are so many sources of help these days!

Susanne

We Welcome Topic Suggestions!

2006-12-16T05:10:00.000-08:00

We are interested in starting a number of topic strings and welcome your suggestions for what topics would be helpful for you.

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Knowing a Partner's Character

2006-12-15T17:34:00.000-08:00

One of the most challenging parts of a relationship is figuring out your partner's character. How do you tell whether the person is acting, lying, pretending? We recommend that the process starts with understanding just what character looks like. So, our books describe what qualities like loyalty, truthfulness, faithfulness, etc. look like. But, how can you take that information and check out whether his/her words are really matching with actions not only with you, but with everyone else too? Any ideas?